I got rainbows...I got roses

I got rainbows...I got roses
Who could ask for anything more?

Thursday, July 03, 2008

Grand Desert Adventures Part 5


Final stop: The South Rim. Neither Paul nor I had been to the Grand Canyon before, it's unbelievable!









Some of the wild life we saw, a squirrel and a California Condor. Biologists have been successfully repopulating the area with California Condors. Below: The black smudge by the trail in the canyon is actually a condor! We also saw some Elk, but were unable to get pictures.


Hiking along the rim, we found a fossil bed. These marine fossils are about 270 million years old. You can see what look like some kind of a snail here. Click on the pictures to see them up close:


These ones are probably brachiopods or sponges.





After we left the Grand Canyon, we drove East along the rim and through the Little Colorado River canyon, past the Vermilion Cliffs and back up to St George, UT. It was a gorgeous drive.

Wednesday, July 02, 2008

Gettin' Our Kicks Desert Adventure Part 4

After six days in Phoenix, we said goodbye to the Sonoran Desert and our new favorite ice cream parlor, Mary Coyle's and headed North to Williams, Arizona a historic stop on the famous Route 66. We explored Navajo shops and investigated the Wild West village.






What are the odds that a person would be able to lock their kids safely out of the way twice in the same vacation? The kids liked playing jail birds in the Sherriff's office, but their fellow inmates look a bit shady to me.



Jordan is looking a bit desperate to get out. Probably because we mentioned that we were going to Rod's Steakhouse for dinner. Their top sirloin was worth a shoot out and we were serenaded during our meal by a brass band. Next stop: The Grand Canyon.


Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Sonoran Desert Adventures Part 3


Our final activity in Mesa was visiting the Mesa Arizona LDS Temple and visitors center. Mesa was originally settled by Jacob Hamblin, the "Buckskin Apostle" and later a temple was built. This is one of the more unique temples because if the architecture, which was chosen to reflect the history and culture of the people in Arizona.


The visitors center at the Mesa Temple is one of the more elaborate temple visitors centers. They utilize technology in their exhibits and displays, including a family history station where you can trace your personal roots. If you are interested in delving more deeply into your genealogy, there is a full Family History Center across the street.

They also have a beautiful and unique exhibit called Reflections of Christ. Mark Mabry's photography illustrates the life and ministry of Christ, set to beautiful music.



Sonoran Desert Adventures Part 2


Paul was attending colloquial meetings for part of each day, which left me and the kids plenty of down time. We partied in our hotel with Crayolas and Uno cards, but when we got bored, spied on people swimming in the pool through our 5th floor window and took silly modeling pictures. (I totally recommend the Marriott Springhill Suites because we had free Belgian waffles every morning for breakfast!)

I love how Taryn's hair holds waves after being French braided for a couple of days in a row. (Am I a bad mom because I don't do my daughter's hair every day? LOL. If it ain't broke....)


You can't see it from this pic, but Jordan lost yet another tooth on the trip. The Tooth Fairy found us even in Phoenix, but she's about to go broke because of the high demand for her services lately.

Ow!!! Can't you see me strutting my stuff on the catwalk? I'm holding out for Ford or Elite to call me up and offer me a gazillion dollar contract.

Near our hotel in downtown Phoenix is the Heritage and Science Park. The historic Heritage Square has museums, shops, and restaurants inhabiting the only still existing Victorian structures from the original downtown Phoenix. It is just across the street from the ASU campus. We took the kids to the Arizona Science Center which is on one side of the park. I have to say, of all the activities we did in the Phoenix area, this was not only the most expensive, but the least fun. It is a huge museum filled with hands-on science activities for kids. Unfortunately, the exhibits are poorly demonstrated, understaffed, dirty, and chaotic. The special exhibits on Grossology and The Chronicles of Narnia required additional admission fees, to see these single exhibits cost nearly as much as getting into the Center in the first place. Then, the explanations of how to work the exhibits were cryptic and there were a lot of unsupervised kids running around everywhere. Maybe I'm spoiled being from Oregon and having grown up on the fabulous science museums OMSI Portland and Wiztec in Eugene, but I'd say pass on this one if you are in the Phoenix area. Check out the brand new downtown Children's Museum instead.

"Mom! It's half skeleton and half human!!"

In Mesa, another activity that is a must-do is the Arizona Museum for Youth. This laid-back, inexpensive museum in downtown Mesa is an Art Museum with hands-on activities for kids to try new art mediums, learn about the Sonoran desert, and learn about the work of local artists.

Jordan coloring with watercolor crayons. After you color the picture, you carefully rub a wet Q-tip over your picture to blend your colors and turn it into a painting.



We made artwork using a giant light board to demonstrate how colors can layer and blend. Taryn is making a piece using cut out films of saguaro cacti and desert flowers.

After you finish your design, you can frame it with a cloth frame:


The second exhibit at the Museum for Youth is one focusing on food and eating around the world. Art work and sculptures of food, eating, and utensils decorate the room while the kids move around stations to learn about designing art for plates and ceramics, napkin folding, and table manners in other countries. Here the kids were able to try their hand at Chopsticks:


Click on the image to learn the rules:




Monday, June 30, 2008

Sonoran Desert Adventures Part 1

We arrived home Saturday night after our nine day adventure in the Southwest. It was hard to choose activities, because there is so much for families to do down there. The 116 degree heat ruled out some activities we wanted to try, like the Deer Valley Rock Art Center where after a short hike you can view ancient American paintings and the Boyce Thompson Arboretum where you can hike through gardens of native Southwest plants, but our days were still stuffed with plenty to keep us busy!

The first day, our love of dinosaurs brought us to the Arizona Museum of Natural History in Mesa:


The kids pose in front of the Dinosaur Mountain exhibit. Every 20 minutes or so, massive quantities of water pour down the waterfalls and demonstrate a flash flood.


Jordan found a fossil of one of his favorite dinosaurs, the Coelophysis.



The museum is in the same building that housed the historical Mesa Jail. The original cells are open for visitors to explore.


The newest exhibit is called PSI: Poop Scene investigation where they explore various ways people and animals use poop. They had models of blue whale poop, sudoku puzzles played with fake poop, as well as fossilized coprolites of various prehistoric creatures. Heard enough? Click on the picture to view some of the 1001 uses for poop.



In addition to prehistory, they also had exhibits depicting human history in Arizona, including the ancient Native Americans and the prospectors in the Old West. We had the opportunity to pan for gold in the courtyard, and we got to keep the Iron Pyrite we found.



The culminating exhibit was the Flying Reptile exhibit that is on loan from the People's Republic of China. We weren't allowed to take any pictures in the gallery that detailed the evolution of dinosaurs into birds with real fossils and models corresponding to each stage. Did you know Utah Raptors were actually feathered? They depicted both the traditional, scaly raptors with models as next to the more accurately depicted feathered models. We also saw archaeopterix fossils (they were much smaller than I thought!) and a giant feathered Therizinosaur model. This was one of the better dinosaur exhibits we've seen, if you get the chance to see this, don't let it pass by!

We had dinner at Organ Stop Pizza. We had heard about this pizza parlour and decided to try it out. It opens at 5, and we were finished with the museum and got there around 4:15 only to find people already lining up at the door. Apparently this is a local hot spot for seniors and families. Inside, you order your pizza and seat yourself. At 5:30, the lights go off and a Wurlitzer Pipe Organ rises out of a pit in the floor. You are surrounded by 6000 pipes as well as ceiling mounted chimes, xylophones, and drums all controlled by the organist who plays requests for hours. During some numbers, a curtain opens and marionettes dance along. It was quite the show!


After each day of touristing , we headed back to our hotel for swimming under the stars. Stay tuned for more of our travel adventures in Arizona!


Thursday, June 19, 2008

Six-Word Memoirs

I'm borrowing this from Mom.Dad.Chat. How would you reduce your life story to just 6 words?

Some examples:

A sample of six-word memoirs by different people which can be found at this site:

* Three marriages, three divorces, now happy. (Tracy West)
* Wish I’d had a different mother. (Lisa Hendrix)
* Loved, lost. Loved, lost. Still hopeful. (Nici Lilley)
* Broke rules. Dated co-worker. Blissfully married. (Meagan)
* “It’s twins,” he said. Oh Crap. (Joni Kirk)
* Aimed for moon. Lost in space. (a g gordon)
* Seeking Hell, finding Heaven. Very disappointed. (Richard Zacks)
* Youthful beauty faded. Praying for brains. (aannah)
* Dancing Naked in My Empty Nest. (Tammy Wilson)
* Found true love; married someone else. (B. Stromberg)
* Nose broken, beauty queen changes profession. (D. Rubin)
* Ex-wife and contractor now have house. (D. Peck)

So, what would yours be? Here's mine--

* Got Educated. Gave Birth. Lost Mind.



Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Provident Living

My last post about protecting your food storage spurred a lot of commentary on my blog and via email about food storage and self-sufficiency. A big part of being prepared for extenuating circumstances, is by living providently to being with, managing your resources wisely to allow you to live well while still being ready for whatever may come your way.

Some other things we have been doing to wisely allocate our resources are:

  • Recycling Water! MommyK wrote a detailed post about how to recycle grey water from household use to water your plants. This not only conserves water, but also saves money. Using biodegradable soaps and shampoos in the shower allows us to water our flowers without additional expense. The soapy water is also really good for preventing insects from lunching on my roses, and means less pesticide exposure for my children and pets.



  • Investing in a clothes drying rack. We used a wooden clothes dryer exclusively for years before we could afford an electric dryer. I prefer this to a clothes line because it allows me to dry my clothes out of the sunlight (sun-bleached whites are lovely, but sun-bleached darks just look old and worn), its less of an eyesore to the neighborhood, and our clothes are safe from an overzealous dog. Drying heavy loads of clothes like jeans on a rack saves tons of electricity and in our dry climate adds a little humidity to the air which keeps our skin nice. It also keeps the house cooler than running the dryer, so we save on air-conditioning expenses as well.
  • We are in the process of planning and building our square foot garden for next year. I like the square foot gardening method because it reduces water expenses and is effective in a small space. Our new house did not have a garden spot, and my husband is always swamped with work in the spring. Since we were unable to get a garden plot prepared to plant in time, we are working to have our boxes built and prepared so we can begin composting directly in the boxes through the rest of this year and have an ideally balanced soil ready next spring. A well-maintained garden can save around $380 a year in produce costs!





  • Saving uneaten crusts of bread in the freezer means a fun and free outing with the kids to feed the ducklings at our local lake.












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Where Frugality Meets Up With Preparedness
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly: Thrift Stores

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Are You Protected by Smith & Wesson?

Our church has encouraged us to accumulate food storage, a 2-3 month supply of foods we normally eat, and rotate regularly as well as a 12 month or longer supply of food, water (or water purification chemicals), and supplies for our families in case of a drastic emergency. (Examples could be job loss, catastrophic weather, or widespread famine.) We have been encouraged to do this with prudence, acquiring our food storage in keeping with local laws, and without going into debt.

You can calculate how much food you would need to store for your family here as well as a list of food, when appropriately stored, with shelf lives of up to 30 years.

In my area, which is also a major earthquake zone, many people both in and out of my church store significant quantities of food & emergency supplies. If trucks were unable to reach our area due to an earthquake or other emergency, our grocery stores would be out of food in less than 2 days. Due to worldwide wheat and rice shortages, more people are taking the counsel to store food seriously and food storage has become a hot topic, and one that I refuse to discuss with the neighbors.

Why? Because it's not prudent for people to be aware of what or how much you have stored. One man around here claims he has no need for food storage--because he has plenty of guns and ammo. What the crap? Maybe I'm just naive, but we aren't even in "impending doom" stage yet, and people are already starting to get psycho about it.

It's really too bad that people plan to participate in this type of insanity. The anarchy we saw after Hurricane Katrina wasn't simply brought on by the fear of impending death, people apparently actually plan for these kinds of behaviors. Other neighbors have shared with me that they not only have their food storage, but that they have munitions to defend it with. Should I add weaponry to my shopping list?

So the "What is Wrong with People Morbid Question of the Day," is would you rather be shot and die instantly, or surrender your food storage and slowly starve to death?

Monday, June 09, 2008

Kindergarten Graduation

Jordan's class prepared several songs for us to showcase what they have learned this year. They performed with sign language and multi-part harmonies. It was awesome!




Here he is with his kindergarten promotion certificate.


Melissa's Wedding Pictures

My niece Melissa got married to Travis over a month ago, and I'm finally uploading some flower girl pictures....

Bride, Groom & attendants


Me & Paul


Taryn loved carrying Melissa's train


Not about to let Travis in the picture!



Ring ceremony the following weekend.

Saturday, June 07, 2008

Haven't answered a tag in awhile...

The rules of the game get posted at the beginning.

Each player answers the questions about themselves.

At the end of the post, the player then tags 6 people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves them a comment, letting them know they’ve been tagged and asking them to read your blog.

Let the person who tagged you know when you’ve posted your answer.


a) What was I doing 10 years ago?


I was living in Oregon and was learning to make my first webpage. I had just turned 18 and and had also just finished my sophomore year in college. I had been accepted as to BYU for the upcoming Fall. I was honored with the title of Up With People's youth citizen for my area and was competing in a local scholarship pageant sponsored by the Miss America organization. I was working full time selling purses & watches at the Bon Marche' and had a part time job doing bookkeeping for a music store, where I also had a few piano and flute students.

b) What are 5 things on my to-do list for today:

Drive my nephew to Salt Lake City
Teach a Sunday School Lesson
Make dinner-a new, made-up recipe: Chicken Enchilada Casserole
Go for a walk
Post tons of pictures

c) Snacks I enjoy:

Chips & Salsa
Twix
Sour Green Apples
Yogurt

d) Things I would do if I were a billionaire:
After doing all the traditional things (pay off the house, set aside $ for the kids school, making sure our parents are cared for, etc etc etc) I would buy a small island off the coast between Greece & Italy. If there is enough money left over, I'd like to fill up my car with gas.

e) Places I have lived:
Afton, Wyoming. Provo, Orem, American Fork, & Tooele Utah. Roseburg, Oregon. Reno & Winnemucca, Nevada.

And who am I tagging?

An Ordinary Mom
Are You Serious
Zoe
Annapinions
Rebecca Talley
Girl in a Whirl

Friday, May 30, 2008

On Predestination

Sorting Hat: Hmm, difficult. VERY difficult. Plenty of courage, I see. Not a bad mind, either. There's talent, oh yes. And a thirst to prove yourself. But where to put you?
Harry: Not Slytherin. Not Slytherin.
Sorting Hat: Not Slytherin, eh? Are you sure? You could be great, you know. It's all here in your head. And Slytherin can help you on your way to greatness, there's no doubt about that. No?
Harry: Anything but Slytherin, anything but Slytherin.
Sorting Hat: Well if you're sure, better be... GRYFFINDOR!

Sorting Hat: Another Weasley hey? I know just what to do with you... GRYFFINDOR!

--Excerpts from Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone, JK Rowling

Have you been sorted into your house? Are you on your path to greatness? Some seem to be sorted into a life situation simply so they can be put somewhere. They carry out ordinary lives and excel at their own mediocrity. Others seem to have a specific path to follow and are placed directly on it, with an "Off you go!" they head out on a clearly marked path to success. Then there are some there are people who feel they have a specific calling in life, but haven't found it yet. These people are unsure of where they fall but feel a persistent drive to find it--whatever it is. Finally, there are those for whom it doesn't seem to matter where they are placed, greatness will find them regardless of where they started out.

On one of the blogs I read regularly, there was a recent post about the Biblical story of Jonah, and how the Lord prepared the fish for him. The author brought up the insight that whales and very large fish aren't grown overnight. Literally decades before Jonah's call, the Lord was already preparing for his choice to run from it.

So, where do you fit? Do you feel you have been predestined to do something in this life, do you know what it is, and if so--are you doing it? Do you believe it is something specific, or more of a general life theme?

Related Post: Dissociative Dreams

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Swan Lake

Environmental Eugenics

I was initially a little annoyed by Obama's comment, “We can’t drive our SUVs and eat as much as we want and keep our homes on 72 degrees at all times ... and then just expect that other countries are going to say OK. That’s not leadership. That’s not going to happen,” because of the implication that he feels more accountable to the world than he does to the American people. But my annoyance only scratched the surface of where the media was going to go with it, spinning off this quote into an attitude of hatred and fear toward overweight people.

I don't discuss politics a lot on this site, and I am unaffiliated with any political party. I believe in doing what's right, regardless of the color of the ticket and part of that is my belief in being environmentally responsible and practicing ethical consumption. However, the aspect of the environmentalist platform that more than irritates me is the tendency some of these people have to ignore the needs of humans. On some level, by inhabiting this planet there is going to be an ecological effect. Without removing ourselves from the ecosystem, there is no way this would be possible.

Not to worry, ladies and gentlemen, because it has already been proposed. The first step in saving the world is not directly related to oil, electricity, or the rain forest. Because you see, if we simply eliminated fat people, we would solve all these problems--according to skinny little blonde commentator on CNN two nights ago. The fat people have been voted off the island.

The sentiments I'm hearing are ranging from pondering comments like, "If only the fat people would stop eating, can you imagine the consumption involved in supporting someone that large?" to an undercurrent of fear, a feeling "Oh my GOSH, they are going to eat all the food! The rest of us will starve!" Oddly, my BMI falls into the normal range for my height, and I know I eat more than a lot of my overweight friends; I eat almost 1000 calories more per day than one friend who is 70 lbs overweight. Anyone who has ever tried to lose weight knows that there is more to your caloric requirements than just height and weight, other factors like metabolism and activity levels are huge.

Many people fail to see the flaws inherent in an Humanistic line of reasoning. In the history of ethics, the original standard of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" was too difficult for us hedonists to follow so we decided that, "do whatever the heck you want, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else," was a better mantra. Too bad "hurt" is subjective and sometimes conflicts with the concept of the collateral damage for the "greater good." Do not, under any circumstances express disdain for homosexual behavior, or abortion because you might be violating someone's civil rights. People with a skin color different from your own are entitled to behave as they please according to their cultural ideals. They can live however they want, and it's not hurting you. However, if someone's muffin-top is an eye sore, let them have it. After all, when we really start feeling the effects of the wheat shortage, their gut represents your child's eventual starvation. It's so much easier to be mean than it is to be prepared.

Why is it so difficult in times of societal upheaval for people to have compassion and understanding toward others, instead of lashing out with hatred? I'd like to ask that snot on CCN why she looks at someone with a few extra pounds and assumes that she is a lazy slob who eats fast food every night. Maybe in reality she is a single parent with a stressful job and no time to exercise. Maybe she isn't actually fat, but has a large fibroid tumor. Perhaps she gained 40 lbs as a side effect from a drug that saved her life, or maybe the "junk in the trunk" represents her triumph in a battle against tobacco addiction. In the midst of the political brouhaha let's not lose sight of the real people.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Beauty and the Beast



We are trying to schedule regular interviews with our children, where we can visit with each of them individually and see how they are doing, and have them report to us on their behavior over the last month. By setting this habit while they are young, we hope that they will look forward to meeting with us, and that when making choices in their lives, they will consider in their actions that they will be asked to report on them later.

Yesterday we held the interviews. Paul and I each meet with one of the children separately, and then we switch, so we each have one-on-one time with each child to talk.

An excerpt from Taryn's interview:

"Well, sometimes I like to do good things, and sometimes I like to do bad things." I initially interpreted her meaning literally, as in sometimes she helps me unload the dishwasher, and other times she runs out the front door and down the street at top speed while I chase her and she laughs maniacally at my frustration.

But, she clarified her meaning for me, "Yeah, like sometimes I like to be a princess, and sometimes, I like to be a pirate instead."

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Procrastinating



I ignore the afternoon’s work and dip three mounds of ice cream—vanilla, as light and pure as the springtime breeze. The children follow me, like a specter of Hamblin. Without words we sit on the red deck, feeling its warmth soothe our naked feet.

There is a book in my hand, but I find Conrad’s writing too sinister for this exquisite day and the glare of the sun off the pages makes it difficult to muse over the words. My eye wanders to the humming, buzzing, sun-soaked afternoon. I notice insects are roaming, confident in the warmth of Spring-perhaps we won’t see another freeze this year after all! The jet contrails stretch across the atmosphere; the high pressure may collude for a thunderstorm later, but for now, the white lines are the only scars in a cloudless sky. In the sultry air, my ice cream is sliding into creamy sweet puddles around the soft knoll in the dish. I lick the spoon and watch my daughter drip a large gobbet onto the porch. Her hand clasps the corm-shaped drop tightly; ice cream is running through her chubby fingers.

My son has already finished, now he scampers across the yard, his five-year old gait swinging his arms at an awkward rhythm to the movements of his body. Afternoon sunlight shimmers off his bleaching hair in contrast to his brown skin and bare, dust covered feet. His shorts slide low on his hips, and there’s a shovel in his hand ready to uncover a new treasure in the earth of his garden where green stalks are pushing out to absorb the late afternoon sun.

The malaise is shattered as a lawnmower engine reverberates into the air. School is out, and our street is filled with kids meandering home from high school. A car turns on the street and the children squeal at the sight of their daddy waving through the glass. It’s time to pick up the bowls, wipe the hands and faces, and pull out the gloves and bats for T-Ball practice. The laundry not folded and frosted cuts of beef not thawed push back into my consciousness and we go indoors. But I leave the door wide open so the Spring can follow us back inside.

This post was originally published April 4, 2007, but since I'm drowning in Spring Fever, I thought it was due for a repeat.

My Public Needs Me?

I'm sitting here musing and munching on a gigantic Caesar salad with an obscene amount of dressing. I'm a little floored by the fact that after being missing in action for weeks, people are still reading my blog. Holly posted some funny Google searches that led people to her site, and my site-minding software doesn't show me any searches like "my kid eats toenail fungus HELP" or "how long can a crazed madwoman go without sleep". All my hits are from my loyal readers (yes, I know who you are even when you don't comment.) The Google searches that do pop up are usually someone looking for laundry hints or people searching for my blog with keywords like "lord of the manor" or the names of my family members.

And I discovered this week that I have another half-dozen new subscribers who are friends and family I didn't even know were reading my blog. Only, I haven't really blogged much of anything for awhile.

Where have I been?

There is a pile of laundry up to the ceiling in the laundry room, that I don't want to wash since we got home.

My lawn is turning yellow because I have yet to do anything about the sprinklers, let alone start constructing a garden from scratch.

The sink is full of dishes.

There are 6 pairs of shoes, among other things, on the floor of the family room.

I've had a few torrid affairs with my old friends, Ben & Jerry. I haven't exercised for a few weeks either (and I don't feel the least bit guilty about it.)

No, I haven't fallen into a depressive malaise. I feel great--I didn't even know a person could feel this contented when the carpets haven't been vacuumed in 2 weeks. I've just been busy. My research into grad programs has focused and I had plans to enroll this Fall, when a local college (the kind of small, liberal arts school that incites visions of ivy covered buildings and funny smelling old books) I'd ruled out started actively recruiting me despite the fact that the deadline is past. They want me for this Fall anyway! More time checking to make sure my earlier decision was right. Time on the phone with the Utah Department of Public Licensing to get their take on various programs. Time picking up farm fresh produce from the co-op. The Little Mermaid book is falling apart from my reading it out loud at least 6 times day, with each reading followed by my listening to a tiny voice retelling the story in her own words. My niece's wedding, a trip to Paul's home town, a reception, and lunches out with old friends stretched into a week. It's May which means football is over, but t-ball is filling our weeknights and school is almost over with its flurry of field trips and projects and practices for kindergarten graduation. Jordan and I have been enjoying stolen afternoons tucked away with James Howe's Bunnicula series, enjoying the dry humor and frantic cat-insanity fraught within the pages. In a flash of impulsivity, Taryn and I captured spring in a flat of strawberries, and the freezer is full of jam again. Taryn is still entertaining us with her quips, but her language is taking off so that her ideas are to rich in context to contain in a blog post. My camera is full of pictures that time precludes me from posting.

I have 865 unread feeds. Forgive me my friends, my life has somehow gotten in the way of blogging. Jordan will be at-bat only so many times this year, and Taryn's first dance season is ending this week with lots of pomp and drama leading to the recital. I'll be around though, eventually.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Mothering


"A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary." -- Dorothy Canfield Fisher



The lullaby is the spell whereby the mother attempts to transform herself back from an ogre to a saint. --James Fenton































"Giving kids clothes and food is one of thing, but it's much more important to teach them that other people besides themselves are important and that the best thing they can do with their lives is to use them in the service of other people." -- Dolores Huerta















"No one who traces the history of motherhood, of the home, of child-rearing practices will ever assume the eternal permanence of our own way of institutionalizing them." -- Jessie Bernard

Monday, April 28, 2008

Media Review: Season of Sacrifice


I had the opportunity to read Tristi Pinkston’s latest historical novel, Season of Sacrifice as soon as it was released. When I received my copy, I was immediately struck by the gorgeous cover photo of Hole-in-the-Rock, and wasn’t disappointed in a story as deep as the canyons that serve as setting. This historical novel is set in Wales and the badlands of Utah, and tells the story of Benjamin Perkins’ emigration to Utah, his romance with his wife Mary Ann, and also the story of Mary Ann’s younger sister Sarah, who leaves a handsome beau in Wales to follow her family and settle in Utah.

After settling in Cedar City Utah, Benjamin was asked by Church leaders to travel with an expedition to settle in the San Juan region of Utah, to create a settlement that would be a buffer and stronghold for the early Mormon Church. Their trek was centered on the hopes of facilitating good relations between the Mormon pioneers and the Indians. Benjamin and Mary Ann ask Sarah to travel with them and help with their children, on a journey through the harsh wilderness that is intended to last only six weeks. They face trial after trial, bringing horses, covered wagons, and families through narrow canyons of rock and down near drop-off steep cliffs, an arduous journey that turns out to last six months.

When they reach their destination, Benjamin is called to take a second wife, and feels impressed that his second wife should be Sarah. This book explores the intricacies of emotion within and between the characters-Benjamin feeling called by God to do something he knows will injure his beloved’s heart. Mary Ann feeling betrayed by her husband and jealous of her much-younger sister, but still obedient and faithful to her marriage covenants, and Sarah, torn between her love for, and loyalty to her sister and her own spiritual impression that this is truly the path the Lord has planned for her life. Pinkston does an excellent job winding the poignancy of emotion of all three characters into the historical facts shared through family heirloom journals of the principal players in the story.

While reading, I found myself wondering which aspects of the story were factual, as many of the stories of the trials and successes of the pioneers traveling through the harsh Utah badlands were touching stories of human strength, as well as near impossible feats of physical probability. Pinkston provided the answers, she includes appendices detailing which elements of the story are factual and which details were her own as well as historical information about what happened to the Perkins families after the end of the novel. Pinkston stays true to the history available--all the stories of how they engineered loaded wagons down sheer cliffs were true--and ad-libs only the details that are peripheral to the story.

Pinkston tells the story of Benjamin Perkins’ two families despite heated controversy over the issue of polygamy—controversy that created obstacles for Pinkston in publishing her book. Just this week as I am writing this (April 8, although this review won’t be posted until sometime later in the month) the government took into protective custody over 400 children from a polygamist compound of the Fundamental Latter Day Saint (FLDS) sect in Texas, as well as over 100 women who were seeking refuge from the oppression they face as plural wives. And a recent episode of Oprah discussed not only the Warren Jeffs/Colorado City, Arizona issues of oppression of women and exploitation of children, but also the polygamist sect in Centennial Park, Arizona in which families capitalize on polygamy to enable massive families to live in decadent estates with multiple professional incomes and family-subsidized child care. With one husband and multiple wives working in professional careers while another wife or two cares for the children, together the groups amass considerable fortunes and enjoy lavish lifestyles. Meanwhile, HBO glamorizes polygamy into a sexcapade laden with jealousy and rival wives on the hit show Big Love. Yes, polygamy is hugely controversial right now.

On a recent work related trip to Michigan, my husband was asked (on hearing that he was from Utah) whether he is Mormon. When he answered that he was, the questioner projected a mixture of curiosity and disdain while he probed further, asking whether Paul has more than one wife. Outside of Utah, many people are simply unaware that polygamy has not been practiced or sanctioned by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for over a hundred years. People still associate polygamy primarily with the LDS/Mormon church even though any LDS members found to be practicing polygamy are excommunicated. The religious sects that currently practice polygamy are not affiliated with the LDS/Mormon church even though some, like the FLDS church (or “Mormon Fundamentalists”) have a similar name, but a very different set of doctrines.

Pinkston’s book allows one to compare the differences between polygamy as practiced by the early LDS Mormons with what we see in the media. For the few LDS members who practiced polygamy (about 3% of the total membership at that time), it was not about financial gain or sexual conquest. A man like Benjamin Perkins often supported and maintained separate households for each of his wives--not an easy feat when farming in the harsh Utah desert—and often, like Benjamin, had serious reservations about taking on plural wives. At that time and circumstance in the Mormon settlements, there were many more women than men, women who were not only unable to support themselves alone, but were also vulnerable to being kidnapped or assaulted by transients or Indians. Polygamy served a protective purpose, and an adaptive one-- the offspring of polygamist families helped create a balance in numbers of men and women in subsequent generations.

In contrast, polygamist systems in the context of our current culture do not balance and support the current stratification of gender in the population. For example, in the case of Colorado City where very young girls are expected to enter into marriage with older, socially powerful men, the adolescent boys are placed in a situation as rivals with their elders and religious leaders. Girls raised in polygamist sects and forced to marry young are not the only ones who face social and emotional issues. Sometimes forgotten in the drama are the adolescent boys in such a society, who are often abandoned by their culture, or simply forced to remain single due to lack of social or religious power in arranging marriages with young women in their own peer/age groups.

Ultimately as I was reading Season of Sacrifice, I was struck with the impression that for these people, polygamy represented a heart-wrenching challenge to all involved, but through which was a refiner’s fire. If all people were as committed to their beliefs as Benjamin, Mary Ann, and Sarah Perkins proved to be, and demonstrated such a level of obedience and sacrifice for their beliefs, there would be a depth of maturity in our daily life that would be unprecedented in our contemporary society. Tristi Pinkston has shared that she felt deeply that the stories of Benjamin, Sarah, and Mary Ann needed to be told, and has dedicated the story to them. I think she did them justice with this poignant story.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Make it Pink!

Taryn was asked to be a flower girl in my niece's wedding. We combed the area for a flower girl dress in the right color of fuschia, but to no avail. We ended up with this adorable A-line Easter dress:



And with a little handy-dandy ribbon magic we now have this:




Taryn says she's ready for the ball! She's also been working on flower girl dresses for her dolls, and my measuring tape is collateral damage. Apparently 95" is too long for a 13 inch doll, but now my tape is pared down to a more appropriate 17 inch size.

Polygamy & "Mormonism" In the Media

For anyone who has been following the news media about the FLDS church and the polygamist compound in Texas, please step on over to Tristi Pinkston's blog to read her fantastic post "Mormons and Fundamentalist Mormons-- Not Even Kissing Cousins." It's well worth it. And pass the link along to your friends or family members who may be confused, as the media isn't doing the greatest job of clarifying between LDS and FLDS or the differences in doctrine and even origins of the two churches.

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

MIA

Sorry for being MIA lately. Everything is fine, we've just been busy with sports, dance, yard work & getting ready for my niece's wedding. Today is our 8th anniversary and we have more fun stuff planned for the rest of the week...I'll be back soon & promise to catch up my feed reader eventually.

Blessings,

Jen

Tuesday, April 08, 2008

To Whom It May Concern:

Today my daughter and I were downtown when my daughter told me she needed to use the toilet.